Individuality

Individuality begins with an “I” and ends with a “Y”. Make it a word game like “I” am, and “Y” am I. And here we are thinking of “I”, myself, my alter ego, my personality, my being, my existence. Immerse myself in the search for all above, free my spirit, my mind, disattach from society, from people of other believes, the one not on my frequency, not on a path to enlightenment, sheep, followers, institutions, religion and politics.

I free myself. I am free. I am myself, Found myself. Become my best self. The best version anyways. May the world crumble and burn to dust. I have myself. I dont need anything else, nobody else. Me, myself and I are.

Thats certainly an exaggerated version, while less radical typs of individualism are having similar traits. They are selfcentered, ones own development and well being is most important.

And this has consequences for all of humanity in a time when the “we” matters more then ever. The we as in “we humans” is more and more replaced by centralistic thinking and acting. A group, movement, party, belief and the “I” become the extreme. 

Democracy lives of the “we” and “us”. That the vote of the many is accepted by the few.

Individualism does not allow to accept the vote of the many if it is not alligned with ones own belief.

Selective acceptance, good is what is good for me, right now….not seing or wanting to see what the future of humanity needs, our children need, the neighbour or even friend needs. It happens on a small scale and larger just the same.

And it has consequences. Social programs become eliminated, discours as well, aggression rises, confusion too, radical views become popular. Segregation, racism, hate speech, cancel culture is more accepted, even applauded.

Human rights are losing grip, genocide a possibility.

Are we losing our humanity, our humane self in the course of our search for individuality?

Maybe yes, there are signs of a degradation.

All fueled by politician’s without a vision for the future, unjust alliances, abandoned morals and an uncertain future

What can we do to enjoy our individuality without losing being humane in days as such?

But the answer is not to abandon the “I” — it’s to expand it.

Expand it until it becomes porous, compassionate, connected.

Until “I” becomes “we” not by force, but by awareness.

So, what can we do?

1. Practice conscious individuality

Let your selfhood be deep and wide, not brittle. Rooted in self-inquiry, not self-importance. Express, yes — but also listen. Evolve, but stay in relationship with others who challenge your path.

2. Engage in dialogue

True individualism thrives in discourse. Be the one who bridges opposing views, not by agreeing, but by being able to see.

3. Create humane boundaries

Detachment doesn’t mean disconnection. It means choosing your circles with care, but also showing up with heart when needed.

4. Turn solitude into service

If you find something real in yourself — a truth, a realization, a stillness — let it ripple. Let it nourish others, even silently.

5. Teach the children both “I” and “we”

That they matter, deeply. But so does the world they live in. Teach them empathy without losing self-worth, and discernment without division.

6. Be wary of extremes

Both the radical individualist and the blind collectivist are missing the point. Truth is rarely at the edges. It dances somewhere in the tension.

In the end, the goal isn’t to choose between “I” or “we”. It’s to integrate them.

To be fully yourself, without closing your heart to others.

To walk your path, and still notice when someone else is struggling to walk theirs.

And maybe that’s how we remain human.

Not by erasing the “I”.

But by remembering it was never alone to begin with.

Lets-Talk about it!

Namaste 

Stefan