First there was love, then came ego

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First, there was love, then came ego
A less spiritual evaluation of Universal love in our day-to-day lives

In my experience, the profound depth of a heart-opening moment, this deep soul connection, can evolve into a relationship—but it may not last. I believe that’s because Universal love and ego are two contrasting forces.

Unconditional love is expansive, boundless, and inclusive. It connects us to others without judgment, offering a sense of harmony that transcends personal desires. Often described as a spiritual or cosmic force, this love is deeply rooted in compassion and a sense of oneness. Beautiful, right?

On the other hand, ego represents the self-centered part of us—driven by personal desires and the need for validation. It creates boundaries and separations, defining things as “mine” or “yours,” “good” or “bad,” often leading to conflict. The ego seeks control and affirmation, which directly opposes Universal love.

I believe the heart-opening experience and the connection we feel with someone in that moment are not exclusive. This is where the ego often steps in to “mess things up.”

For me, the energy of Universal love radiates outward—it isn’t confined to one person or relationship. Love, like flowing energy, naturally extends beyond individual connections, influencing others and our environment. This is why people connected to heart-opening energy often uplift those around them.

Universal love doesn’t mean losing personal connections. It allows us to experience relationships without the need for control or ownership. Think of it like the sun—it shines on everyone without losing any light.

Yet, the ego, left unchecked, demands exclusivity:

  • This love is all mine, and I don’t want to share it.
  • If it’s shared, I lose the connection.
  • If it’s shared, I feel excluded and small.
  • If it’s shared, I’m no longer loved.
  • If it’s shared, I die, my love dies.

None of this is true, but the ego’s need for control can lead us down this destructive path. Eventually, the soulful connection gets replaced by ego-driven conversations, and we know where that can lead.

Why does the ego emerge after heart-opening experiences?

It’s a need for control and self-preservation. When our hearts open, we feel vulnerable, exposed to the full power of love. While that feels liberating, the ego perceives it as a threat. It tries to protect us from the potential risks of losing that connection, being hurt, or letting go of our individual identity.

Psychologically, we try to control love, thinking we can secure it by setting boundaries or clinging to it. Spiritually, love transcends those boundaries, inviting us into a space of oneness. This threatens the ego, which thrives on separation.

So, how do we stabilize the soul connection and minimize ego interference?

First, enjoy this beautiful connection—it’s a gift! With it comes awareness, a sense of oneness, self-love, reduced ego, chakra alignment, and universal love, creating a balanced, fulfilling way of being.

To fully enjoy the connection, be present. Pay attention to the small, everyday moments—whether it’s a meaningful conversation, a shared laugh, or just sitting in silence. Being mindful amplifies the beauty of the connection and reduces ego’s influence.

Old habits die hard, but with an open heart and the willingness to change, we can minimize ego’s interference and keep the flow of love strong.

Let’s talk about it.

Namaste,
Armaan